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Choosing Myself: Embracing Self-Care without the Weight of Being "Selfish"

Updated: 5 days ago

Throughout our lives, many of us are programmed with the idea that prioritising ourselves is equivalent to being "selfish."

This term, filled with negativity and judgment, often makes us question our own worth and right to happiness. But why does the word "selfish" carry such a heavy burden of criticism?

It seems as though when we make decisions that center our own well-being, society views it almost as a transgression, akin to committing a sin. This has left many of us grappling with guilt and fearing the consequences.

However, in embracing ourselves and prioritising our needs, what crime are we truly committing?

If our choice to focus on ourselves results in harming others, then surely, there's reason for reflection. But, more often than not, we are not choosing ourselves to cause pain. Instead, we choose ourselves to heal, to grow, to love more profoundly, and to support others from a place of strength and abundance.

The societal perception of selfishness is rooted in the notion that self-sacrifice is the ultimate act of nobility. While there's undeniable virtue in considering the needs and emotions of others, it's crucial to remember that self-care is just as important. By nurturing ourselves, we're in a better position to enrich the lives of those around us.

Without conflict, we confine ourselves to live within the boundaries set by others, never truly understanding or embracing our potential. It's essential to understand that without conflict, we sacrifice our autonomy, forever striving to fit into someone else's mold.

For years, I viewed conflict and the fear of being labeled "selfish" as an insurmountable obstacles. But today, as I reflect on my journey, I realize that self-love and self-care aren't about being selfish – they are about self-preservation.

I've embarked on this journey of self-acceptance, shedding the weight of societal judgment, and embracing the joy of choosing myself. It's a liberating experience, one that's allowed me to love, support, and be there for others in a way I never could have imagined.

And so, I urge you to shed the guilt, confront societal norms, and embrace the beauty of choosing yourself. In doing so, you're not just choosing happiness for yourself but also radiating positivity, love, and strength to everyone around you.

Choose yourself, as I have. In doing so, you'll find that "selfish" is just a temporary label, but self-love is an eternal journey.

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